I had the privilege of attending a women’s retreat a few weeks ago and WOW did I need it! Work can be a lot not to mention living in a house with 6 people! It is really hard to arrange a trip without kids but can you believe it has been 11 years! YEP, 11 years since I had a night away from all the kids. I had some blocks to work through. Mom guilt and anxiety are at the top of the list. Now I will say I had good reasons, and I am sure everyone out there also has their good reasons.
Even though my reasons were valid I was holding my needs back. I was not allowing myself to rest and focus inward because fear was in control. However, I did it, I made myself take a break. All the work I have done has put me in a place where I can stay grounded in the moment and out of my head. No more “what if this or that happens”, no more “I can’t or shouldn’t”. That energy was replaced with “I deserve this, the family is capable and I will enjoy my time.”
If this was me even 5 years ago I would have backed out. The anxiety would have been too heavy in my mind. I share this with you not to list my many reasons on why I was anxious. Because my reasons are not any more or less valid than yours. We all have our reasons for fear. The point is, you do deserve whatever it is you have been putting off due to a fear. Maybe it’s a move, relationship, vacation, new job, or whatever is calling you. It is time to go get it! I wish I could assure your mind that everything will work out perfectly, but that is not realistic either. What I can do is promise you this: If you do not change anything, nothing will change.
Sit with the statement “If you do not change anything, nothing will change.” Grab some paper and write down your response to the following: What in life is calling you? What changes can you make to reach it? What will life look like if you don’t? What is one thing I can do today to get closer to this change?
As long as we list our mile long reasons for not being able to have the things we desire, we will convince ourselves we are not worthy of our dreams. So from a place of love and experience I mean it when I say. No more excuses, if you want change make changes.
