How we perceive bad experiences and the way we deal with them will completely determine our emotional response. How we process the situation is within your control.
Let me give you an example, a year ago a tree fell in my house, like all the way through my roof into my living room. It was a quiet summer at 3 o’clock in the morning. We were all fast asleep when what sounded like an explosion woke me. I jumped out of bed. My husband was still half asleep but I ran down the stairs to investigate (Like I was able to fight off whatever came my way, mom powers I guess). I looked outside and because it was dark I did not see anything out of place. I ran to check on all my kids, who apparently can sleep through anything! As I walked through my living room with my phone flashlight to head back up to my bed I noticed fluff all over the ground, I looked up and realized there was a tree in front of me, right there in my living room! I called the fire department to check for serious damage. It happened out of nowhere and I had a choice at that moment. I could say: Why me, I’m so unlucky this is crazy! Once the sun came up we could see the tree had hit right outside every bed in the house where my children were sleeping but none of my children were hurt. None of us were hurt. I made the choice to remind myself that I can not control all things in my life. So I asked myself, what are the blessings here? First, We were safe! Second, I had an older roof on my house that in the next five years was going to need to be replaced anyway but because of this incident I was able to get a new roof through insurance. Now I do not have to worry about leaks and damage.
This is true with big and small issues that come up in life. I have had to learn to find ways to stay positive through loved ones addictions, life as a single mother, assault and the list goes on. I am not suggesting you ignore the bad, but reframing our mindset can help us move through th experiences. The key is to not let the hardships consume all of your mind to the point it feels impossible to function.
Things happen in life that are not fun or that we do not want to face but you have the power to look at things from a place of gratitude and peace. By practicing this you will be able to find strengths in setbacks and live in a much more peaceful state of mind.
One way to start making this shift in mindset is by keeping a gratitude journal. Here is a prompt for you to get started. The Gratitude Journal prompt can help you reset how you see a situation.
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